Why is divorce in the trend now? Why parents still decided to leave each other and leave the children heartbroken? Why children cannot understand and use this great excuse to become rebellious and cause heartache to people around? Why is it that, holding on to each other till old is so rare and wishful thinking for this generation?
I don't understand. I don't know. I don't care. Why cause young children to deprive the simple happiness? Why parents became so selfish and divorce becomes an easy option? So much questions in my mind now. I hate to know that another kid is suffering due to parents' decision to be apart.
To the woman/mother out there, what were you thinking when you're carrying the child for 9 months? You hope for the best for your child. Is divorce your best for him/her? Can you sacrifice for their sake?
To the man/father out there, what can you make your child smile for the rest of his/her life? What can you do to make them proud of you? Is divorce your best for him/her? Can you sacrifice for their sake?
To married couples out there, the day when you exchange your vows, the day you say "I do." Does it still apply in difficult times? Or does it just happen in good times?
Parents, think again. When your child is sick in school, who should they call? On their birthday, how would you want to celebrate? Reunion dinner, alone or just another passing day? Graduation day, either of you take photos with them. Wedding day, are you going to sit on the same table or cater another seat just for you. All these major events in their lives are unavoidable. Don't give them a chance to blame you guys for who and what they become because of your decision. Your responsibility starts when the news that you are going to be father/mother. Give them your best. Teach them how. Be their guardian angels not destroyer.
No matter what, try to make peace with each other. Learn from mistakes, give in and love each other. Tell yourself this is no longer an one man show, but 2 or more. Sacrifice yourself for the sake of others. Because you first love, everything will change, trust me.
Pray if you can. If you're free-thinker, doesn't matter too. Just pray. You'll be surprise if you get an answer!
I said all these because I been through all the above. I'm not married but I know how its feels when parents are no longer together. The longing for a family to sit down to have a simple meal together is still in my heart. Despite that I've turned 21, I still love the feeling of togetherness. Don't take that simple joy away from them. Difficulties to trust/love the other person... Yes, I been there too. My dad. You said its different. How different? I'm still his own blood, closer than anybody else; and how different it is from husband? It took me courage, sacrifice, tonnes of tears, struggles to make me who I am. Right now, I love him like nobody else! He is one of the most wonderful person ever, though he didn't change a bit since the day he was this way. Situation, that varies. If its about money matters, think again. Is it worth to split up for the sake of some bills that is not alive? Don't let those bills stop you from holding each other, growing old together... Remember this, nobody wants to be alone especially when you're old. Dying alone is a sad choice.
Family love is the most important thing that cannot be replaced. But it can be taken away... by your decision.
Don't divorce.
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